“If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.”
I’m super behind on blog posts for the books I’m reading in 2020, but a few weeks ago I finished “You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting you Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero and wanted to do a book review on it.
I picked this book as the first book of 2020 because I thought it would be the perfect book for inspiration to kick off the decade – and it was! Funny, inspiring and relatable are just a few words I’d use to describe the book. The author herself is humorous, call it like you see it, no BS kind of person and it’s incredibly evident in her book.
In this post, I’ll summarize a few of the points she made that I thought were gold nuggets or pure wisdom, but here is the main point to really internalize before you can implement the rest of her advice and that is: “You need to go from wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life.” Easy as it sounds, this is something I’m still struggling with and trying to make a conscious effort to do. Here is what deciding looks like to the author, which couldn’t be illustrated more clearly: “Deciding means jumping in all the way, doing whatever it takes, and going after your dreams with the tenacity of a dateless cheerleader a week before prom night.”
On the note, let’s dive in to a book review of “You are a Badass”!
Forgiveness is key
How many times have we heard this? But how many times have we taken it to heart? What I loved about this section of “You are a Badass” is how she explained what happens when we don’t forgive. Sometimes we think that if we don’t forgive someone, it hurts them. And we all know it really doesn’t, but the hurt it does to ourselves is uncalled for.
“You aren’t a better person for feeling guilty or bad about yourself, just a sadder one.” This one stung because it is so true. So I’m not going to ramble here, but let this one sit for a bit. Refusing to forgive others opens the door and welcomes sadness in your life. Another book I love on this topic is Forgive for Good by Dr. Fred Luskin.
Follow your fantasies
What do you fantasize about? Having six-pack abs? Traveling the world? Climbing the corporate ladder? Writing a book? Our fantasies are really our goals without any plan to achieve them. Jen puts it this way, “Our fantasies are our realities in an excuse-free world.” Now this made me think about what I’ve been fantasizing about. One of those things was blogging more so here I am writing this post. I know previously I’ve fantasized about it, read other people’s blogs, watched their stories, crept hundreds of posts back on their feed and wishes I could do what they did. The only difference was that they had started and kept going. This is still an area that I need to work more on.
What I love about the book “You Are a Badass” though is that you get called out. Example: “Much of the time we pretend we aren’t clear on what our calling is when what’s really going on is that we’re horrified to face it because it seems too big or too impossible to make a living at or completely out of the question for us.
Give and let give
“…giving is one of our greatest joys…When we trust that we live in an abundant universe and allow ourselves to give freely, we raise our frequency, strengthen our faith, and feel awesome, thereby putting ourselves in flow and the position to receive abundant amounts of return.” This was a bit of a harder concept to grasp I’ll admit. I think in life most of us are conditioned to keep and save and store for the rainy days we always heard about as kids. But how crazy would it be to live in a world that you could be so selfless and generous because you knew there was always more.
This is what this section of “You are a Badass” was about. It was about believing that the universe would provide and in believing so wholeheartedly that the universe would provide, you’d raise your frequency and there would be abundance in your life. This is a harder one to grasp and visualize, but I’ve been slowly putting this one into practice.
Remember that done is better than perfect
“There’s no better way to get things done than to already be rolling along – momentum is a wonderful thing, not to mention highly underrated…” For anyone who has any goal, and I’m assuming that everyone, let’s get to it! This is something I’ve started telling myself every day. I’ve had this blog for over a year and I’m pretty inconsistent with it and I start and stop and get into this awful habit. So, it’s not perfect, but it’s a start!
Think about something that you need to start and do it! (after you finish reading this post, of course!) For example, you can start reading “You are a Badass” For me, I started this blog. It’s definitely not perfect, but it’s out there! AND you apparently found it if you’re reading this.
Delegate or die
“You absolutely cannot grow a business, get promoted or be a cool parent, and you absolutely will go gray before your time, if you try and do every single little thing by yourself.” We all know delegating is important and it’s something we’ve heard time and time again. But I wanted to call this out because she didn’t overexaggerate her section heading “delegate or die” because it literally feels like death to do everything. More importantly, your business could die, your relationships could die, your health could wither away, and with all of that, your dreams could die too. What’s more important? Keeping a healthy balance in life? Or being the controlling freak, you pretend not to be?
Overall “You are a Badass” had me on a heck of a roller coaster and I’m glad that I decided to sit down and write this book review because if anything, it’s a great reminder to us all. I laughed A LOT because Jen Sincero sure knows how to tell a story. I smiled because I knew I was getting real tips on how to work and grow in 2020. I got down and anxious because I knew I was not where I wanted to be in life. But most of all, it made me stop and reflect. I think that the key to a good book is one that will make you pause and look at your life and find ways to grow even in the smallest of ways.
“If you’re serious about changing your life, you’ll find a way. If you’re not, you’ll find an excuse.”
If you enjoyed this book review, I highly recommend you checking out my other book review on my 7 Takeaways from How to Win Friends & Influence People.